Learning disability?...or not?

I recently had my youngest daughter, Lola, tested for learning disabilities. It was a very complete psychological testing that looked for both learning and mental disabilities.

---------------rewind a few years----------------

By the time my oldest, Lilly was two years old, she knew all her ABC's and could count to twenty fluently, plus more.

-----------------enter Lola------------------

^ This is a reenactment of someone smacking me off a chair with a fry pan to the face ^

Once we "officially" started school with Lola, she still did not know her ABC's. This poor kid did not actually learn them until she was eight. Eight! Every child is different. I couldn't imagine why it would be THIS different though.We learned a few years ago that she had dyslexia, but even knowing that, she did not seem to be taking anything in. I tried everything. I have bought so many different programs for school, I could open my own store. Nothing stuck. There came a point where I started letting go of certain things. If you try teaching a kid the months of the year for four years, and they still do not know it, you may as well move on to something else, right?

The compounded problem="THEY"

"They" are all the people that had their own opinions.

"They" said I wasn't homeschooling right.

"They" said she needed to be in a public school.

"They" said Lola was playing me.

"They" said I needed to discipline her more.

How well do you know your children? A mother's instinct is never wrong. I should have paid attention to it. I was so focused on what "they" were saying...I did not pay attention. Sometimes it wasn't even a voiced thing, it was little looks back and forth to other people in the room when Lola would do something wrong that "They" thought she should know.

What was found in the test is this: 

Lola has ADHD

She also has virtually no short term memory.

NO SHORT TERM MEMORY!!!!

Yes, I can discipline THAT back in her...hold on while I beat the crap out of my child.

That was me being completely sarcastic...

Thankfully, I never took that advice from "They". I don't think I would be able to live with myself now if I had. Every day, this poor child of mine would get scolded at some point for not listening. I would tell her to go do something and she would come back in the room a few minutes later saying she didn't know what I said. It rots my guts to think of all the time wasted listing to "They". It physically hurts me down in my soul.

Listen to your children. If you think something is wrong, there is a good chance that your spidey senses are dead on.